I was speaking to my baby cousin two weeks ago and he mentioned that he was seeing someone. I was so happy for him because the previous relationship left him broken and in lot of pain. Unfortunately
My happiness did not last long. Few days later, he dropped a bombshell that they broke up. THE END
The reason behind the break up was that someone told her that my cousin was with another girl. She said that she doesn't trust him and he is a loser and she wants to break up with him. That’s it, end of the relationship.
Days later, she texts him and tells him that she wants to get back together. My brother was confused and did not answer straight away. So, she called him a loser and all those things again.
I said, if she doesn’t trust you, then what is the use of getting back together? Unless you want to give the relationship another chance and see if it works. Risky situation but completely in your hands.
My cousin is like, if we get back together, she may get up one day and say that she doesn’t trust me, what do i do then? There you go, you have your answer.
However, i do feel sorry because i know that when you are in love, it is not so simple. Heart takes over and the brain stops working. A simple question becomes complicated and even if you know what the answer is, your heart do not agree.
Nothing is simple in today's world.
If it was me, i would have spoken directly to my partner and asked him if there was something going on and try and talk things through, if i wanted to make this relationship work. I wouldn’t just give up like that. Every relationship has it ups and downs and people will tell you things. Rather than listening to others and jumping to conclusions, it is better to talk face to face and clear any misunderstandings with your partner.
Sometimes, your eyes can defy you. My brother was on holidays for a family wedding and was helping one of the bridesmaid with some chores. But this just led to a big mess and ended up his relationship.
Love and Trust are the top most ingredients that makes a relationship. If you are not in love with the person or if you do not trust the person, there is no future. At least, that is what i believe.
Yes, there are loads of other things that are equally important but the foundation of an relationship is based on love and Trust. If the foundation is not solid then you can decided what the future holds.
What is important in your relationship and how do you make it work?
Forgot to ask, how was your Halloween guys? This is me at Halloween trying to scare the kids :)